Dear Roseann
About 6 months ago I started a business with a long-time and
much respected colleague. Things started
off with a huge bang! We got three major
clients immediately and everything had been going great until last week.
I thought I was doing my share and felt proud of my
contribution but my partner blew up at me after a client meeting last
Friday. She criticized my approach with
the client and said she thought my suggestions made us look naïve and
inexperienced. Since then there’s been
lots of tension and I’m not feeling creative or motivated. I spent the weekend angry and spent this week
bracing myself for her next complaint.
I’m afraid if we don’t fix things between us I’ll be ready
to quit. I tried talking to her but she
accused me of being too sensitive and said we didn’t have time to process every
interaction between us when we had work to do and deadlines to meet.
Do therapists ever work with business partners?
Carla – Logan Square
Dear Carla
First, congratulations on the success of your new
business. And 2nd, good for
you for recognizing that the quality of your relationship with your business
partner is crucial to managing the continued success of your growing business.
Research shows that 65% of startups fail because of
interpersonal tensions within the founding team. We all long for the same things in our
professional relationships that we want in our personal relationships: emotional safety, a sense of belonging and value,
appreciation, trust and empathy. In work
partnerships we want to feel inspired to express the best versions of
ourselves.
So, the answer to your questions: Do therapists work with business partners is
an absolute YES! Therapists understand
the forces that block connection and the strategies that build them. They can offer guidance on ways to wage good
conflict and suggest ways to repair the inevitable disconnections that happen
between people in the process of building a business. It makes sense to get help before the tension
turns into relational hopelessness and one or both of you gives up on the
business and on each other. A relational
therapist can help you both find ways to get back on track after hitting a bump
like the one you described.
I suggest talking to your business partner and agree on
getting help together. Just like a new
business might need financial or legal help to get started and keep growing,
your relationship is the foundation of your business and getting relational
help to support the thing on which all else rests is a wise investment.
Let me know if you’d like to set up a first meeting. Wishing you continued success.
Roseann